Gift from Sarawak

From hubbie’s brother and gf. So sincere of them This is not a fan, they are actually bookmarks.

Marriage

I was reading this article this morning after receiving a sms from my sis: Purpose of Marriage.

Marriage is a life commitment that was to be made after serious considerations from both parties. Different people have different views about marriage. SOme people married because of peer pressure, family pressure and of course they could be simply have no choice since their marriage might be decided by parents.

Most people married because they loved their spouse and is willing to spend the rest of their life time caring for each other. Though this can also be done without getting married but some might fear insecurity due to the null status in society. But whatever it was, i am sure both parties played a great part in deciding whether to settle down in life.

My parents have been married for almost 27 years (well, based on my age i guess ) and life has never been rough till the recent few years. I am not sure why but it seems they could not longer communicate as well as they did many years ago.

Though i am only 1 year into my marriage, in my own opinion, as a couple grew up together through the years, the following two characteristics tend to change along the way (as least this is what i see in my own parents/friends/colleagues):

1. Character changes (some grew better, and some grew more stubborn and opinionated). What happened to the lovey-dovey sweet talks like ‘Honey’, ‘dear’ when they are dating? Maybe they no longer find it a need to maintain all these since they have already gotten the girl/guy for this long or they are just simply bochap a.ka ‘can’t be bothered’

2. Financial views (some became more money-minded, some became more generous). Most couples quarreled over the famous symbol known as ‘$’. Yes, factors like having a new-born, illnesses, aging parents, household expenses, career unstability and also child education makes the greatest effect on this change in view.

So what’s all these gonna do with the sms from my sis? Oh well, the message is quoted like this:

Sis, mum was criticizing dad’s bad character right in front of the relatives now… sigh… what a shame….

Actually i was pretty upset when i see this sms. This is not the first time my parents acted like ‘kids’. They dun see the importance of giving respect to another fellow human being and also dun see the need to give in to one another at times (Thought this is what marriage is all about?). Rather, they chose to go into cold wars and even direct insults whenever they have disagreements just like this time. There are a few times when mum even suggested staying separately in the future to me (thank goodness not in front of dad).

Hope things will just get better one day.

Day 7 CNY

Day 7 of CNY 2007 is really unforgettable. After having our special ren2 ri4 lunch with my family, we moved on to the Rainbow fish shop at Serangoon North Ave 2 to purchase an auto-fish feeder. We cant leave our fish to die when we go for our 2 week overseas trip in March right so we have to get one feeder to do the job.

Before we went back to our home nest, we decided to drop by one of the Seletar Fish farms. We had been living in the vicinity for so long and yet we have not even drop by the farms. (Never knew it existed!) We have gotten ourselves 50 Rummy Nose tetra fishes at a cost of only $10. Good deal right?

SIde note: OUr fish tank seems to be a bit overloaded with fish after pouring in another 50 new members. Hohoho…

Day 5 CNY

How time flies and now we have already reached the 5th day of the chinese new year. This new year was rather quiet as most of the relatives are either abroad or our visiting timings are just not perfect. Do think i’ve failed to even wish those meet-once-in-a-year relatives a happy new year. Sigh… wat happened to all the customs?

Not all was foiled though. I got to meet my hubbie’s malaysian relatives this time round. Woke up real early on CNY Day 2 to catch a bus into Johor. Though almost half a day was spent on travelling, i was glad to be able to pay them a visit this year.

Though only married for one year, i have people urging me to give them a Piggy-Year kid. Is it a MUST for married couples to have kids? Hehee, we will see.

Have a happy chinese new year everyone!

CNY thots

How time flies, we have reached Day 4 of the piggy year.

It has been a rather quiet chinese new year for me at least for my parents side. Some relatives have taken this opportunity to go for tours and for some, the timings are just not that convenient for me as i need to visit families from both sides. Thus, i missed quite a lot of chances to see those see-once-in-a-year relatives this year.

What was rather fruitful for me this year was, i had make my first trip down to Johor to visit dear’s relatives which i’ve never seen before ever since i was engaged. Hahhaa, that bad huh? Was supposed to pay a visit during the new year last year, but i fell ill rather unfortunately. Though the journey seems rather tiring (in fact, it was terribly tiring!), i am glad that i did not miss another chance this year.