I was reading this article this morning after receiving a sms from my sis: Purpose of Marriage.
Marriage is a life commitment that was to be made after serious considerations from both parties. Different people have different views about marriage. SOme people married because of peer pressure, family pressure and of course they could be simply have no choice since their marriage might be decided by parents.
Most people married because they loved their spouse and is willing to spend the rest of their life time caring for each other. Though this can also be done without getting married but some might fear insecurity due to the null status in society. But whatever it was, i am sure both parties played a great part in deciding whether to settle down in life.
My parents have been married for almost 27 years (well, based on my age i guess 
) and life has never been rough till the recent few years. I am not sure why but it seems they could not longer communicate as well as they did many years ago.
Though i am only 1 year into my marriage, in my own opinion, as a couple grew up together through the years, the following two characteristics tend to change along the way (as least this is what i see in my own parents/friends/colleagues):
1. Character changes (some grew better, and some grew more stubborn and opinionated). What happened to the lovey-dovey sweet talks like ‘Honey’, ‘dear’ when they are dating? Maybe they no longer find it a need to maintain all these since they have already gotten the girl/guy for this long or they are just simply bochap a.ka ‘can’t be bothered’
2. Financial views (some became more money-minded, some became more generous). Most couples quarreled over the famous symbol known as ‘$’. Yes, factors like having a new-born, illnesses, aging parents, household expenses, career unstability and also child education makes the greatest effect on this change in view.
So what’s all these gonna do with the sms from my sis? Oh well, the message is quoted like this:
Sis, mum was criticizing dad’s bad character right in front of the relatives now… sigh… what a shame….
Actually i was pretty upset when i see this sms. This is not the first time my parents acted like ‘kids’. They dun see the importance of giving respect to another fellow human being and also dun see the need to give in to one another at times (Thought this is what marriage is all about?). Rather, they chose to go into cold wars and even direct insults whenever they have disagreements just like this time. There are a few times when mum even suggested staying separately in the future to me (thank goodness not in front of dad).
Hope things will just get better one day.
